What to do when you’re dragging?
Good morning, this is Sal Celly, hope you’re having a great week and an awesome day. Today I want to speak about dragging. We all have been in that situation where things are just not seeming right, we’re dragging our feet, everything seems to be moving very slowly, we don’t seem to have much energy, we don’t seem to be thriving, and we just seem to be limping along slowly. There doesn’t seem to be any excitement.
Realize that you’re dragging?
It’s important to realize when you are in a situation like that, and then try to analyze it quickly to see what’s causing it and take corrective action promptly. It could be a personal situation, where there’s trouble at the home front, either with your spouse or with your kids, or a relative. It could be a situation at work, which is causing a lot of stress. weighing you down, or it could be the external environment that you have no control over. That could be dampening your spirits and your emotions, and as a result you could be dragging. There could be multiple contributing reasons.
Take decisive & prompt action
Once you quickly analyze what is causing it, the next step is to do something about it, and to take action. Of course, you should pray and ask God to guide you and take away some of the stress. In addition, you need to take action as well. You can take action in two areas. One is you could try to arrive at a solution to what is weighing you down. That could happen in multiple ways. If it is a relationship, you need to address that relationship issue.
If it is something that is beyond being addressed, and you’ve already talked about it, and it hasn’t gone anywhere, then you need to take a call. And sometimes you need to end the old to make way for the new. So ending a relationship that is not going anywhere, can be the start of a new beginning. And while it may seem painful, and while it may seem scary, sometimes that is what is needed, and what is required.
On the other hand, maybe you can talk it over and arrive at some specific steps and some specific expectations for yourself and your spouse, or your kids, or whoever the person is, and lay down very clearly- here’s what I expect, here’s what I don’t expect. And I’m going to assess this and if I don’t see any improvement or any change, then we’re going to have to figure out how to part ways amicably. So that’s one option.
React to the situation differently
The second option is you can respond to the situation in a better way. And what I mean by that is, don’t let stress get you down to that extent. What are some of the ways you can do that? Sometimes the cause will still be there, but how you react to the cause, and how you react to the situation is something that you can control. To do that, you can do things you like to do- listen to some music, relax, exercise, meet a friend, or eat better. Start doing the things that give you happiness. If one source is not giving you happiness, then look at the other sources that do.
Our state of mind is critical
Ultimately, it’s our state of mind that is important, and there could be multiple contributing factors to that state. Maybe all of the contributing factors may not be functioning optimally. So if one factor is causing you stress and distress, then maybe you need to focus on other factors and improve there and on the others to compensate for the issue giving us pain.
It’s not a pleasant situation. And trust me, we’ve all been there. But the way to get out of it is one, pray. Secondly, talk to other folks that have your best interest in mind, to try and bust the stress being caused. Thirdly, try to address the situation itself. Remember, the good part- This, too shall pass. Hang in there, be strong and remember, it will work out. I will see you on the other side. Thank you