Forgiveness is Freedom

Forgiveness is freedom.

For more than half of my life, I couldn’t forgive someone who repeatedly hurt a loved one.

I was afraid that letting go meant…

… agreeing with what they’ve done
… allowing them to do it again
… that I was wrong

What I didn’t realize was that by holding onto the negative feelings, I was allowing them to hurt me again and again.

When I was thinking about what happened, I was feeling the pain just as if it was happening again.

I was consumed by anger.
The anger was generalized.
My family would experience it.

Some circumstances changed and I started considering forgiveness.

What I discovered was that letting go meant…

… Healing
… Choosing to stop hurting myself through my thoughts
… Choosing to stop trying to change a past I can’t possibly change

Forgiveness didn’t mean reconciliation.
Forgiveness meant letting go.
Forgiveness meant freedom.

When I chose to forgive, my anger started going away.

My favorite quote about forgiveness:
“Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.”
– Nelson Mandela

To start your process of forgiveness, ask yourself these questions:

1. How is this resentment serving me and my relationships? Really.
2. What would change if I would not feel this resentment?
3. What do I want to do about it?

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In case you’d like additional details or if you’d like to schedule a complimentary coaching session with me on how you can lead a happier, balanced and more fulfilled life, by forgiving others and yourself, please email me at coach@maximizeu.life Thanks.