Forgiveness is freedom.
For more than half of my life, I couldn’t forgive someone who repeatedly hurt a loved one.
I was afraid that letting go meant…
… agreeing with what they’ve done
… allowing them to do it again
… that I was wrong
What I didn’t realize was that by holding onto the negative feelings, I was allowing them to hurt me again and again.
When I was thinking about what happened, I was feeling the pain just as if it was happening again.
I was consumed by anger.
The anger was generalized.
My family would experience it.
Some circumstances changed and I started considering forgiveness.
What I discovered was that letting go meant…
… Choosing to stop hurting myself through my thoughts
… Choosing to stop trying to change a past I can’t possibly change
Forgiveness didn’t mean reconciliation.
Forgiveness meant letting go.
Forgiveness meant freedom.
When I chose to forgive, my anger started going away.
My favorite quote about forgiveness:
“Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies.”
– Nelson Mandela
To start your process of forgiveness, ask yourself these questions:
1. How is this resentment serving me and my relationships? Really.
2. What would change if I would not feel this resentment?
3. What do I want to do about it?
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