How do you handle grief?

Grief is real

Hi everyone, hope you all are doing great. Today I want to talk about something that a lot of people don’t necessarily communicate often about. That is, how do you handle grief? And more importantly, how do you support somebody that is grieving?

We are all going to face this. If we haven’t already, at some point in our life, we are going to lose a loved one, or somebody we love is going to lose a loved one, a spouse, a parent, an uncle or a friend.  In in those situations, how do you handle the ensuing grief, loss and sorrow?

Life is never enough

As some of you know, unfortunately, my father-in-law passed away on December 23rd, 2023. He was 90 years old. But life is never enough. His funeral service took place on January 8^th, 2024- there was a long gap between when he passed and when he finally went home to be with the Lord, and the funeral service occurred. That was a very difficult time for Laura, my wife. Laura’s still grieving and cries almost daily. I need to constantly remind myself that I need to be very supportive, encouraging, and compassionate.

Express your emotions

Try not to stop the feeling of grief or shove down the emotions of sadness and loss. The emotions need to come out and be released-the worst thing you can do is to bottle them up. The other thing you also need to do is not isolate yourself, because that will compound the sorrow. Loss is a big emotion. And it is natural to grieve. Take the time to grieve. But after a while, try to resume your normal activities- try to get back on the saddle of life.

Do what makes you happy

Slowly but surely, try to divert your mind and do the things that will make you happy, whether it is listening to music, working out, or going for a brisk walk. Personally, I like to ride my motorcycle. Especially when it’s a cool day, and you get the cold breeze blowing in your face… that really helps me. Those are some of the things you can do to get past the immediate grieving situation-you will never really pass it, there will be times when your emotions will overcome your body, mental state, and your feelings, and you will burst into tears. That is okay. A grieving heart takes a while to recover. And it may not recover fully, ever. Little by little you have to move on.

Be supportive and be present

If somebody you know is grieving, be there for them and be supportive. I sometimes get asked what we say when we go to a funeral. You don’t have to say anything. Your presence is so important. The family that is grieving has just lost a loved one. Being there for them and being at the service is so important. Sharing with them, caring for them, giving them a meal, helping them with some logistics. All those things go a long way.

Quality relationships are important

Take the time out folks. I don’t believe when people say they don’t have time. You make time for what is important in your life. There is nothing more important than quality relationships. So, if you know somebody that has lost somebody they loved, please be there for them. Show up, be visible, and be supportive. Doing that is more beneficial than you know. That will help them in a much more impactful way than you can ever imagine.

I wanted to do this quick blog. People don’t talk about this, but it is a natural occurrence that each of us is going to face in our life, if we haven’t already. Pray about it. Talk to people that care about you. Don’t isolate. Let the emotion out. Move forward one step at a time…even slowly.  Moving forward is key.

This is Sal Celly. If you have additional questions, please visit our website at www.maximizeu. life or send me an email at coach@maximizeu.life. As you know MaximizeU is an AI powered tech platform for individuals and institutions to maximize potential and transform for a balanced happier and impactful life.  Live, lead and work with greater freedom power and peace of mind. Thank you and take care.

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