Forgiveness has power-by Sal Celly
Forgiveness has great power and is critically important. We have all been in situations where somebody or an organization or some people have hurt us. This could be in our personal life or in our professional life and is as applicable in both.
When people have hurt us or have done something bad, which has caused us loss, we naturally develop resentment and hatred and the instinct to get even with them and do something bad to them to pay them back. The loss can be emotional, financial, psychological, physical, health loss, status loss, and so many other potential losses. It doesn’t matter what kind of loss it is.
We have all been there, we have been hurt by people or by organizations that may have cheated us. They may have misrepresented themselves and tried to take unfair and undue advantage of us and as a result have created loss. For some this loss is irreplaceable. For others, it takes a long time to recover from. Even though we feel that we need to pay the other person back and do bad things to them, don’t. What I’m going to tell you is counterintuitive, but so beneficial. Forgive the people who caused you the loss. Forgive them. When you do that, not only are they being released, but you also are being released by the burden of it, the loss and the negative feelings and emotions that you have carried in your mind in your heart for so long against that person.
When you forgive the person, you are not only freeing them, but you are more importantly freeing yourself. Remove the burden and let the load be taken away from you. It is so empowering. When you actually forgive the other person, you feel lighter. You feel more emotionally secure and stable when you let go of that negative emotion that has plagued you for so long. I know this is difficult to do. And I know this is counterintuitive to what we have grown up with particularly in the West, where it is an eye for an eye and a fist for a fist. But the only way you can release yourself from the burden and the tax is to forgive the other person.
It is not your job to avenge them or to seek revenge or to teach them a lesson. That is God’s job. Don’t take on God’s role. Your job is to release yourself from the burden and to free your mind and to regain your peace and comfort and stability. And the way to do that is to forgive them. They have already caused the damage. There is no point holding on to that, harboring that and trying to find ways or seek opportunities to revenge and teach them a lesson. That is not your job. Please focus on what you can do and what is in your control and leave the rest to God.
What is in your control is how you react to the loss, and to that person and how you behave with them. I have experienced this professionally and personally. It is extremely empowering when you come to that stage where you can turn the page, forgive the other person and move on. It doesn’t have to be an explicit forgiveness; it can be an implicit forgiveness. Whichever way you do it, that’s up to you. The key is to forgive them. release yourself from the burden and move on.
Nobody’s saying that you have to become best friends with those people, but emotionally, psychologically, mentally, physically, once you release them, and forgive them and release yourself, the burden gets lifted, you will feel a lot better and you will be a lot happier and you will lead a more balanced, fulfilled and rewarding life. What happens to them after that is not your responsibility. I am a firm believer that as you sow, so shall you reap. That is another discussion for another day.